I was reading this article online about the death of an Australian gay dude who was living a “slave & master” relationship with his American lover.
You know, the gay world is more than same-sex intercourse; it’s very complex, full of labels, cliches and subcultures.
Stuff I personally avoid, because I love my uncomplicated life.
That said, when the gays see a fellow homosexual in the public sphere, they plug them into the dumb taxonomy the community has made for itself.
We have our own stereotypes for each other, and they’re much more specific than you can ever imagine. They may not be very familiar to the world at large, but they are certainly familiar to the brothers in butt fucking.
Twinks, twunks, bears, otters, jocks, daddy, daddy chaser, pup, wolfs, cubs, chubs, circuit boys, gipsters, bulls, gym bunnies, gay-listers, show queens, queers, art fags, and so on.
It’s pretty exhausting and those are a mix of labels and subcultures.
Although I’m not into “the scene,” I’m familiar with all this stuff because I worked in gay XXX for many years and I’ve seen all sort of things.
All that to say that I was sad and frustrated to read the story of this “pup,” (Jack Chapman) who died after injecting silicone in his genitals to enlarge the organ to grotesque proportions. But the thing is that Jack lived a “slave” lifestyle…
Perhaps for “fun,” but probably out of fear!
The circumstances surrounding Jack’s death have turned the spotlight on Dylan Hafertepen, Jack’s “master,” and the psychological abuse he allegedly endured along with a last-minute revision of a will.
The Australian News program The Project recently took a deep dive into this story.
The Stranger‘s Daniel Villarreal took an even deeper dive, and once you’ve finished watching the above videos, and you want to learn more, you can check it out here.
Writes Villarreal: “The Seattle Police Department, when asked on October 30 if they are investigating Hafertepen, said: ‘The Seattle Police Department and King County Medical Examiner’s Office have reviewed the medical file related to this death, as well as concerns from the community. There is no criminal investigation at this time.’ Despite that, Hafertepen remains a much-discussed figure among a subset of the gay fetish community. Chapman’s death all but guarantees that his renown will turn to infamy.”
I’m totally open to whatever makes you happy, but this is clearly abuse!
How does he not meet the criteria of an abused spouse? If the victim was a straight woman with a male “master” there would be a criminal investigation.
I guess it’s harder for some to see him that way due to his size and sex. But being banned from talking to family and required to sign a contract submitting to body modification? And let’s not forget about that suspicious will.
There are some kinds of consent that people cannot legally give, and here’s a great example. To me, this was a psychotic abuse masquerading as BDSM.